Can women have sex like men?
Comments (6) Season 1: Episode 1: Sex and the City
This question seems to fit in almost perfectly with the recent claims that I’m a slut. Can women have sex like men, or are we doomed to stick to 3 partners for the rest of our lives unless we want an unflattering and nasty label? Less importantly Carrie asks "why are there so many great unmarried women, and no great unmarried men?"
When I talk to people who don’t really know what sex and the city is, or have never really watched it they at least know a couple of things – Charlotte is the hot one and Samantha is the slut. They don’t know what Carrie does, and they never even know who Miranda is. "The cynical lawyer?" …"no idea" "she’s the smart one!" …"no clue" "She has red hair?" … "…Nope"
The thing with Charlotte pisses me off a little bit, but not as much as Samantha being constantly labeled as "the slut". She has a lot of sex, yes. She also has a few lovers through out the seasons as well. This is really where the "can women have sex like men?" question comes in.
"Like men" = a lot, for their own satisfaction, hardcore, quickly and… did I mention a lot.
It seems as though its more appropriate for men to have unlimited casual sex. They don’t get deemed slutty, or disgusting. Its a status symbol. Its like in that movie… American Pie… 2? I think? Anyway, you are told that men always add 2 when they say how many people they’ve slept with and girls always subtract two because its more appropriate. Women are taught to be modest about their sexual lives and men are taught that sex gives them a higher status.
Women can of course have sex like men. Women can do whatever the fuck they want… (well, except … you know, get equal pay and have abortions.) but while they’re out screwing whom ever they want, when ever they want they’re gaining a ‘bad’ reputation because they aren’t keeping their legs closed. Not to mention the double standard that guys what their girls to be virgin like… but then always expect them to be good in bed.
One huge difference between women and men when they have sex is that sometimes it seems like the man is just using the woman as a replacement for their hands – masturbation with a body. It’s a hell of a lot hard for a woman to do this. For there to be complete satisfaction for the girl she’s got to make the guy do a bit of work, but for the guy, he doesn’t need her to do anything except cheer him on. Argo? We should probably all just be lesbians.
I’ve also read somewhere that when a girl has sex a chemical is released that makes them more affectionate and lovey toward the male that they were with, but that this doesn’t happen to a guy. This would indicate that women can’t have sex like men – because they can’t just let go of partners as easily as men can. I don’t believe this for a second -but its a theory.
I say, if a woman wants to have sex with 10 guys a week for the rest of her life then she should go for. (As long as it’s safe… I don’t cheer on stupid sex.) The more women that have sex for their own pleasure and push men off to the side afterward the better. Its about time we ditch the ‘modest about sex’ attitude and start being just as proud as men are when they have sex.
So I conclude that women can of course have sex like men. Sex is sex. Do it! Its good fun. …But more importantly women SHOULD have sex like men.
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