Category: Christianity

There probably *IS* a god, now stop worrying!

By Katie Kish, January 30, 2009 11:11 am

Leave it to the United Church of Canada to come out and counter our ads. I think this is a really exciting new development. They’re hoping their ads have the same effect as ours – to spring up discussion in the public. I’ve been a member of their site wonder cafe for many years now because it’s proven time and again to be a really great place to have this exact discussion (and many others) with believers who have an open mind. (Although the EZ Answer Squirrel has always been a tad bit lame, in my opinion.) I’m just hoping they don’t pour a whole ton of money into their campaign making our ads way more obscure than theirs.

Although, the discussion surrounding the ad on their website is way ….below…what i’ve found their usual conversation to be. I expected the people there to actually talk about it instead of just saying it is a silly and useless comment. I’d love to hear their intelligent thoughts surrounding the message instead of them just assuming that we’re attacking them…and not only that…that our only purpose is to attack them.

With silly comments like “there’s probably no science” and “why aren’t they attacking moselms” it’s very easy to brush the entire thread off as more people who aren’t interested in opening their mind up to new ideas and actually talking to us about the meat of the issues. However, there are a couple people on there going against that statement. Such as:

Kappa

I’m with those who see this as an opening for discussion. To me the sign is not funny so much as it is a statement, “Hey, look, we really DO live in a country that supports free speech, if the exercise does not take away the fundamental rights of others.”

Posted on: 01/21/2009 15:50

Alas – Good on you, UCC!

Cross posted at Atheist Bus

The Difference Between Me and Militant Atheists

By Katie Kish, December 1, 2008 4:24 am

*Wordpress says I wrote this December 31, 1969 at 7 pm. …I just found it in a random spot in my wordpress and thought I’d publish it. I dont really remember writing it*

Ask and ye shall recieve. A while ago on my own blog I wrote about Ron Luce and his militant army of evangelical 15-20 something year olds. The quotes from their website at the time were terrifying. They were literally acting like an army for religion. Part of me was absolutely disgusted by this utterly horrible display of militantism – but then another side of me was oddly jealous. The one thing I’ll give Ron Luce is that he’s successful. He’s managed to make “god” and “praying” and “worshiping” fun.

Living with a minister I was pretty much pushed into church every week until I was 16. I continued to go for a while, but it was horribly boring. Where else was I supposed to go to praise god? One year a friend of mine invited me to Acquire the Fire, so I went. And I had a fantastic time. Yes I was saved, prayed, sang the songs and all that jazz – but it was a really good time too. I was with friends, we were dancing, we got to hang out at night… etc. It was just really fun. If there is anything that is bringing down churches like the United Church and the like its that they’re very stuck in their ways of doing things. I do understand that tradition and ritual is a vital part of some people’s religions experience and essence. However, young people aren’t connected to that ritualistic method of praise, and thus the youthful presence in a church is often extremely low.

Acquire the Fire got it right. They found a way not only to make young people want to come to their events – but they want to take what they learn home with them too. And then they want to go next year, and the year after that, and the year after that. I envied the way he could suck people is. I wanted a voice like that for my groups!

And I got it.

Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris, et al. We got em. They’re loud, they’re proud, they make everything seem fun, everyone wants to rally up beside them and shout to the …lord? …Oh wait, they hate the lord.
Anyway, now that I’ve got what I was asking for – I don’t want it. I find that the one thing I have in common with these people is that we all happen to be atheists. In my early years of “atheism” I was very much like Dawkins and the like. But now I just see it as naive and narrowminded. There is a whole world of interrelations with religious groups that get cut off too quickly because they’re just that – religious groups. When in all reality the most eye opening discussions of my life have been with my parent’s “progressive christianity” group.

I find that too many non-religious people have stopped asking questions and more importantly have stopped listening. I will be fair in saying that until now (well, until the publishing of the top-selling atheist books) there hasn’t been a voice for those with critical comments towards religious claims. Time and time again, even in my academic career, I’ve been hushed on the subject of atheism, I’ve been fired for being one and have been shunned for talking about it as if it’s as ordinary as the weather. These “radicals” opened that door, and that’s good. But I don’t want to be associated with them, really.

There are horrible things that have come out of religious traditions such as repression of sexuality and urges, war, genocide, censorship, denial of science and the reign over women. And in the same way horrible things can come out of the hard non-religious outlook on life like considering people to be less intelligent, repressing people’s opinions, dividing the population, being completely intolerant and as I said before, the worst of all, not listening to anyone else. On the other side of all this a lot of religious organizations do really honourable things like donating to charities just as non-religious people donate to charities. There are also organizations of all faiths that work together. Multi-faith center (albeit generally on campuses) come together to do fundraising, vonlunteering and discussions. These are productive uses of faith and intelligence. Continuously attacking the other side is not.

I know that I am more or less speaking for myself in this case – but that is not my intent with my writings on this site. I know that we all have different intentions on terms of what we’re “passionate” about and who we think deserve certain levels of “respect”. As much as I love having a loud voice for people to follow, for people to look up to and more or less for people to follow – it’s not the point of this movement. A freethinkers movement isn’t a movement where we should be lying down and solomly listening to poeple who happen to write fancy books. Espeically because these books look at so few things – they tend to focus on one area of things and just continuously attack that area instead of branching out and learning new ways to incorporate skepticism and freethinking into discussions and society.

Until the freethinking movement becomes something that can be added into everyday conversation without it seeming like an attack on people then it isn’t going to be effective or useful. It will just be another opinion for people to ignore because it doesn’t take into consideration the views and opinions of others, and isn’t that what we’re really against? Shutting out/down the opinions and views of others? Why follow in the footprints of people who are creating a voice that is just going to be ignored, because it ignores everyone else? When instead we can create a cooperative voice with one another and really start figuing out why the hell people believe in weird things.

As a memeber of this progressive and freethinking movement and as a nonbeliever I still respect, listen and (more or less) tolerate the opinions of the other side. When it comes to science I understand that it’s hard to tolerate something that is just flat out false but that’s another topic all together. This is opinion, philosophy, morality, love and the soul I like these discussions, and hearing all sides as to incorporate a wider view of what people believe into my life and studies. My problem is not with these religious people, especially progressive ones, it is with those who elimiate reason based on unsubstantiated claims, and likewise it is with those who eliminate religion based on unsubstantiated claims.

Not Quite Hypocrisy

By Katie Kish, July 14, 2008 4:15 am

Ian wrote a post recently claiming that those of us who want to talk with religious folks might just be hypocrites. I can most definitely see his point – but I think his point is wrong and that comparing religious people to child molestors is a pretty disgusting and unfair way to make a point.

I agree that the loud and proud atheists have done a great job at getting atheism on the front lines. Dawkins at al have been very effective in making atheism more “main stream” and well known. However, this is where mine and Ian’s opinions differ – greatly.

In my eyes, if anyone is a hypocrite it are those who are like Dawkins et al. So many flaming atheists claim that religion is closed minded and detrimental to the well being of individuals. However – a lot of these atheists are just as closed minded as the christians/jews/muslims/whatever that they’re attempting to stand up against. It’s hypocritcal to stand so firmly against something because you think it’s haulting people’s lives and ability to live their lives in the way you think they should be living it.

Ian says this

If you call yourself an atheist and believe that many religious beliefs are down right wacky

I do think religion is pretty wacky. I think it’s pretty silly to believe in most religious things. However – I also see that not everyone thinks like that. I see that my mom finds comfort and love in her religion, and I’m curious about it. What makes her believe? What does she cling onto? What would make her stop believing? Is she upset that I don’t believe?

How else am I supposed to fill my curiosity about something like religion without talking to those who are religious. The difference between this and a child molestor is that a child molester is breaking the law and doing something that I know is fundamentally unethical and disgusting. Being religious isn’t fundamentally unethical and disgusting. If a particular religion did advocate child molesting, or killing people, or something cultish – then yeah, I absolutely 100% wouldn’t give them my time of day – that’s why you’ll pretty much never see anything about scientology on my blog.

I think Ian is looking at it from a very narrow view. Not all atheists think that religious people are a waste of space or “wacky”. Some of us are genuinely curious about the sociology behind religion. I want to know everything about what they’re thinking. I don’t think it’s fair to mock their religious ideologies or to tell them that they’re “wrong” or “stupid” for believing what they do.

So yes, I do love what Hemant is doing over Dawkins et al. I would rather listent to Hemant speak about looking for more – than Dawkins talkabout already knowing everything.

Gretta Vosper

By Katie Kish, June 23, 2008 5:12 am

Gretta Vosper is a minister at West hill United Chruch. She’s a fantastic speaker (like, nice to listen to) and a really nice person. But her talk in general – less than impressed.

In my personal opinion there are a few things you need in order to call yourself a christian. i don’t claim to be any sort of religion expert – but I’ve grown up with it, lived with it and studied it. And from what I’ve seen in my short couple decades on earth is that generally, you need God and/or Christ to call yourself a christian.

Gretta preposes that neither of these really exists. She talks about not taking the bible literally or even really using it for anything useful.

Gretta is invovled with what the United Church is calling “progressive christianity“. Ever since the book Why Christianity Must Change or Die came out ministers who deem themselve “progressive” have been trying to save their church. What are they really doing? Taking steps to becoming secular.

  • no god
  • no christ
  • not taking anything out of the bible literally
  • admitting that the bible is basically…entirely fictional
  • saying that “community” is what is important…

It’s secularism, only she’s covered it with fluffy bullshit about “love”…we all need to love, believe in love, follow love, let love guide the way… blah blah blah. She’s coping out by not just saying “I’m agnostic, and this isn’t progressive christianity, it is the realization that we’ve been obeying outdated and detrimental rules and thoughts”. I’d like for once for a minister to just say that. She did, however read some songs that her husband had written, it was nice to hear something like that being done in CFI – I didn’t particularly like it, because it just felt like church, but I know other people appreciated a more “artsy” approach to things for once.

My step dad tries to get around it by calling god everyone’s “something”, as if this is some sort of appropriate definition. Whatever you want to call god, you get to call god. Whatever you want to call faith, spirituality or belief is valid, because it’s your “religion” so no one can deny it. That’s where this is going. I can’t deny my step-dads god because apparently I don’t “understand” it, and I can’t take away his definition of “his lord”. I’m sorry, but to me, when you’re allowed to arbitrarily define things that are so important it tends to not only lose meaning, but credibility.

Two things specifically that Gretta said that made me nearly puke:

  1. “I’m not an atheist. Just because I don’t understand – I don’t believe”
  2. “The soul is your DNA altering your aura around you”

I’ll allow you to see the stupidity of #2 all on your own – but #1… it made me boil inside. I hate it when people tell me I’m an atheist because I don’t understand religion. I don’t get what it feels like to feel ‘christ’ and to be ‘loved’ by ‘god’. I do know what it’s like to think those things. I was religious for many years. So I do know what it’s like to feel the “love” and all the fluffy emotions that come with something that can offer so much support in life. I just refuse to not look past it all.

Anyway – good for CFI to put on an event with a minister, I didn’t like it, but it definitely brought in a different crowd and it was good to hear a different opinion and view point, no matter how much I didn’t like it. It made for good bar fights later, too.

The Minister

By Katie Kish, June 9, 2008 5:53 am

My grandma’s memorial was on Saturday, it was in a church – because that’s where she wanted it. It was the first time I had been in a church in a long while. My brother and I kept shooting one another glances when we’d have to pray or something.

It was really hard to respect my grandmother’s wishes without exploding about sitting inside of an almost cultish setting ["now lets drink the kool-aid" my brother said to me at one point].  My step-dad spoke at one point and it was quite nice because he talked a lot about personal experience type stuff. But later on the minister of the church that we were at started to speak.

It was so horrible. I wish I had a copy of what he said.It’s not a good start to something whe you begin a new thought at a funeral with the words “I don’t want to be disrespectful…but…” … and then go on about “yeah, she’s dead, but the church will be okay!” Please, that’s totally not what I wanted to hear at my grandma’s funeral.

It was shitty to be so disconnected from what was going on. The only times when I actually felt like I could relate to what was going on was when my little cousin did a little talk, and when my step dad was telling stories about how we all viewed her. “special k”

Going into church again definitely gave me a huge reminder about why I walked out of the church life. People kept saying to me “She’s in a better place now”… my brother and I had to grind our teeth a little because as far as we’re concerned when you’re dead, you’re dead. The off switch has been flicked. But you can’t be that rude and abrupt with people who have just lost someone so dear to them. I feel so bad when I say to my mom “you didn’t just talk to dad, because dad is dead”. She believes that he’s really communicating with her. I will admit that I did know my grandma died before my mom even told me. I said to a girl beside me “I’m pretty sure my grandma just died” and literally 10 minutes later my mom called to let me know that it had happened. Granted I knew she was sick, but I had just finished a 10 hour shift and hadn’t been updated on her status in a while. …Just a tid bit.

I don’t know how to tell people what I believe when they’re in such a …sad state. Because the biggest way they’re coping is by thinking that she’s in a “better” place. I did buck up enough to say “no, i actually didn’t think it was a nice service” when people asked me if I had enjoyed it as much as they did. Because I really didn’t think it was a nice service. My brother and I promised that who ever dies first – the other will take care of their funeral arrangements, and then leave a note before we die that we want the other’s to be handled in exactly the same way.

Then, to top it all off, we paid the minister $150. SHITTY.

Soooo, things that have made me sad in the past few days:

Marcus Ranum said:

I don’t think anyone is necessarily calling theists ’stupid’.

I am. They are.

Next?

jerk.

worg said:

If you’re tolerant of religion you’re fucking dumb.

sigh.

Standing at my grandma’s grave letting the wind dry my tears so I looked strong.

Not being able to enjoy my grandma’s memorial because the religion kept annoying me.

Seriously though – the comments that I’ve gotten in the past few days have been too much for me to handle. I usually soak all this shit right up and fight right back, just as hard. But I’m pretty sure this is the first time commenters have made me cry! Ah hahaha. Fuck. I think it’s just the emotions of this week.

How do you manage to get through a religious funeral? What sort of respectful response is there to “she’s in a better place”?

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