My brother e-mailed me this morning telling me I should blog on a topic going on at Reddit. So I will, after class… here is the topic starter, just to get everyone pumped up. (hahahaha. loser)
I have lots to say, and I will say it at around 3:00 when my class is fini and I am at work….
**update**
Alrighty… so I actually have quite a bit of stuff to do here at work today so I’ll just make this sort of quick. First of all I think guys that do the whole romantic thing need to get a grip on life. I don’t expect to be flirted with or seduced. In fact, if I am flirted with I usually respond with an eye roll and a "uh, ‘k…" then walk away. I don’t know where this "they want to be dominated" thing is coming from.
I dont want to be dominated. The females I am working with right now (4 of them) say they don’t want to be dominated. The girls I just ate lunch with (2 of them) don’t want to be dominated… I have no idea where this is coming from. My guess is that this is a hegemonic assumpation based on the stereotypical things being portrayed in the media.
I usually do make the moves, too. Unless I am totally unaware that there is even "something" there. Then I don’t. But if I like a guy, he’ll know. It seems as though the guy who wrote the post just missed out on an opportunity to get laid because he was being unobservant and so he missed out on a hot peice of ass - good.
Some girls may dance around the idea of dating/fucking/being with a guy, but these are the girls that still like to play games and still adhere to social gender roles that they should be more passive and yadda yadda. Every powerful feminist woman I know who is serious about herself and about her sexuality is very straight forward about what she wants and she goes after it. There is no use dancing around the issue.
…Women don’t have to do anything, though. Really. Neither do men. Relationship games are never going to end. No matter how many times you say "just say what you mean"… You do, and words are still misinterperated and so on.
"If you really want sex that badly…" …If we really want sex "that badly" its called a vibrator.
The problem is that girls expect the guy to romance, flirt and seduce her. If you really want sex that badly, why don’t you try showing up at the door next time he comes by, buck naked. Theres no mistaking that for some crazy women signs. Femenism made women powerful, but they still want to be dominated the same as before. If you are so powerful now, why don’t YOU make all the moves instead of waiting for him to?
The answer is because its not fun making all the moves, with the possibilty of rejection and all that. Women want to have the power, but none of the rejection. Ask out that guy you like, don’t sit around waiting for him to ask you out, don’t drop subtle hints that you want to fuck him, JUST DO IT!